The good news is that both parties want to give parents money.

The bad news is that it’s just not enough.

Before I (Lane) had a kid, people would tell me that child care was expensive. “Okay,” I thought. “Well, if I have a kid, it’s a necessity, so I’ll just find the money—and it’s only for a few years.”  

Then when my partner and I actually had a child, I quickly found out that HOLY COW child care is expensive. 

We were lucky, and had several months of paid …