Nov 15, 2023Liked by Allison Lichter, Lane Anderson
I watched wife-and-motherhood kill my aunt, nearly kill my mother, and leave about half of us cousins twisting in the wind as kids. I just couldn't ever bring myself to trust a dude to stick around, couldn't gin up the belief that having a baby, or two, wouldn't bankrupt and kill me. And so, I don't have kids. I was a fabulous auntie, a great nanny, and pretty much raised a bunch of younger cousins. I would have liked to have had kids. I love my life, but as with my writing career that stalled out, as with academia which I left -- actual financial stability via proper government support would have made all the difference.
I watched wife-and-motherhood kill my aunt, nearly kill my mother, and leave about half of us cousins twisting in the wind as kids. I just couldn't ever bring myself to trust a dude to stick around, couldn't gin up the belief that having a baby, or two, wouldn't bankrupt and kill me. And so, I don't have kids. I was a fabulous auntie, a great nanny, and pretty much raised a bunch of younger cousins. I would have liked to have had kids. I love my life, but as with my writing career that stalled out, as with academia which I left -- actual financial stability via proper government support would have made all the difference.
This was so good!
Loving this newsletter and the extra nudge to read Touched Out. It’s been on my list for a while.